Got an email from an angry DDS over the weekend that you can see below. This is a good email because it allows me to discuss a topic that’s important to understand if you want to succeed in dental sleep medicine.
But first, let’s hear from the angry one! As best as I can gather, he’s writing in response to a booklet we sent him about our program.
Subject: SORRY YOU SUCKED AT BEING A DENTIST
Me? I’ve been very happy with the career I chose, and there are thousands of us out here doing what patients need every day. I just flipped through your brochure and the first thing I thought of was P.T. Barnum’s famous quote about “There’s a sucker born every minute” I hope you sleep well at night, but I sure don’t know how. Not a week has gone by in the last 47 years that I haven’t read about some guy like you who has figured out way to scam the public and his fellow dentists, and I kinda feel sorry for all of you. Still, it is a free country, so if someone is dumb enough to follow you, then who am I to say all of you are wrong? Your path is not my path, sir.
First, I’m always happy to hear from a dentist who likes what he is doing. So that’s great.
What is odd here is the strong response like this to pile of paper and ink. It’s not the mail he’s responding to, of course, the mail just gave him an excuse to release some of the issues he’s probably been carrying around for a long time.
People don’t realize that anger, resentment, fear and all of that muck can really ruin your life if never learn how to deal with it.
When someone speaks like this, it says far more about them than it does about anyone else. But it’s a good lesson for all of us.!
If there’s one thing you need to make it in dental sleep medicine, you have to understand:
- You’re going to get told “no” when you present the program to physicians.
- You’re going to get ignored when you reach out to contact offices.
- You’re going to get told you are not liked, or that you’re crazy, or that what you have “won’t work” when you meet with people (physicians and probably some of your colleagues!) who have no vision and are scared of NEW things.
If you respond like our angry DDS, you lose. You show the world just how insecure you are and the world will learn to ignore you.
But if you learn to realize that what others say and think about you doesn’t matter at ALL, then you can use each of these opportunities to sharpen your focus on achieving your goals.
Most of the world is miserable because they’re scared to death of failing. It keeps them in their cages, in their small lives where they can have some feeling of control.
It even keeps dentists in their struggle.
You can break out of that. You can unlock the door of the prison most people live in when they’re scared to death of what others think about them.
I wish our “angry DDS” the best and HOPE he resolves whatever issues have created such anger inside of him. You don’t want to walk around with all of that stirring in your core for too long.
It’s only a matter of time before you pay a price for that kind of baggage.